Sunday, April 15, 2007

parents

wow, it's sunday already, again!!

Last sunday was good. I really enjoyed the service at the unitarian church. I learned about the legend behind the easter bunny, and the phoenix, and we did a meditative exercise and then had potluck, which is of course a fantastic opportunity to conversationalize with new people. The woman who did the presentation is mennonite, and has family from my hometown, so we were able to discuss the complications of being..... well..... us, in a mennonite family. It seems like every woman in that church has read "Complicated Kindness" by Miriam Toews. That book is about my hometown, so they know a little of where I'm coming from.

So, my parents are in town, and so far so good. Last night we ate tacos and I got them hooked on Joan of Arcadia. I think it's close enough to their own concept of God to crack them open, and then just different enough to maybe broaden their view a little. Sure, the Rob Bell book was too much, but this I think will be juuuuuuust right.

I'm doing them a favor..... really.

I've been reading "How to Meditate" by Lawrence LeShan. I like it's logical and straightforward approach, instead of that touchy feely mystical language that you'd expect in such a book. It describes a number of different ways to meditate, outlines the benefits, pitfalls and difficulties in each, and does it by drawing examples from all the different schools of meditation, everything from christianity to zen. Though he hasn't mentioned the ninjas yet.

So, I've been really trying to consistently make time each day for some meditation. After my Buffy-athon, that is, two full months of watching nothing but Buffy every evening, I decided against watching TV this week, and it's been nice. I got reading done, and exercise. Anyways, with the weather getting nice, who has time for tv? Nevertheless, I was sad to see Buffy end. I watched season 7 twice simply because I wasn't ready to say goodbye.

Last night, while me and my mom made dinner, I let my stepdad watch my Ani Difranco concert DVD. After a while he asks me "Is she a feminist?" in that tone that makes it clear that feminists are a very small group of alien subspecies who can be identified by their uncompromising song lyrics, amongst other things. Sometimes I forget how limited their experience is. I mean, these days, who isn't a feminist? Mostly just fundamentalist christians and rednecks..... or maybe muslims. I don't mention to him that she's also bisexual.

Today I'll meet them at church and then we'll go to the spa in the afternoon. My stepdad actually requested to revisit the restaurant that he grudgingly allowed us to eat at the last time we went to the spa: Nit's Thai. "That weird chinese food" He's come a long way. Maybe one day they'll learn how to use chopsticks.

Well, I can dream, can't I?

6 Comments:

Blogger SocietyVs said...

I used to live right beside the Unitarian Church in Davin Place (the big building next door). I also had a friend going there named Anna (and her husband and kid). Nice people that's for sure and I somewhat lean towards this theology on some levels also (it's a nice - Borat).

Your parents sound a little harsh at times in your blogs - are they really that narrow minded? I have a gay friend that just love Ani Difranco (it's an acquired taste that feminist music (lol)). Oh well, maybe they will open up on day and discuss some of the ideas you have - until then - the chopsticks idea is groovy.

April 16, 2007 9:49 AM  
Anonymous ursa smaller said...

no, my parents aren't harsh.... there's nothing mean or hard about them, but they have had a limited experience. I didn't mean to imply that my parents wouldn't react with compassion and kindness to a feminist, or a bisexual for that matter, but it would be the sort of compassion that separates. "WE will be kind to THEM so that eventually they can convert to our way of experiencing God" Pretty standard, really. It's not as though they're not good or nice people.... it's just that they're christians ;)

April 17, 2007 5:30 PM  
Blogger SocietyVs said...

I comprehend - nice with motives.

April 18, 2007 9:08 AM  
Anonymous bruced said...

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April 18, 2007 6:55 PM  
Anonymous ursa smaller said...

looks like all systems are go, bruce! ;)

April 18, 2007 7:53 PM  
Anonymous bruced said...

So far, yours is the only blog I can comment on. I'm not sure if that's good news, or bad news, for you!

April 19, 2007 4:43 AM  

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